I’m not friends with you anymore!
Ah, playground dynamics – where you find out who’s still friends with whom. I remember a day when someone I thought was a close friend decided she wasn’t friends with me anymore. Oh, how that cut to the heart!
If you’ve read my About Me page, you’ll see that I have moved a lot. The bulk of those moves were to new cities or states where I arrived knowing only my husband and dog. Aside from the gruesome job of unpacking, there were always a few items on my “to do” list:
- learn my way around the neighborhood
- figure out where to find the grocery store, bank, mall, library, etc.
- apply for a new job
- search for a new church
- find a friend!
- A transfer at work puts you in a new department,
- a marital status change finds you alone with couples or no longer hanging with your single friends,
- a switch in your small group finds you separated from close friends, or
- maybe even your closest friend is the one moving.
Regardless of the reason, you’ve found yourself alone and without, as Anne Shirley would say, a kindred spirit. These aren’t hard issues necessarily, but they still leave you aching for that missing companion.
Pray this prayer with me today:
Father, our hearts have holes that ache and bleed. The loss of a familiar friend leaves us so alone. At times we may think there is no one who sees us or cares about us as we go through each day. Tears come, but there’s no one to see the tears and offer comfort.
Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: it is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed. Your compassions fail not; they are new every morning (Lam. 3:21-26).
God, the times that we feel so alone, remind us of your presence and that your Spirit is given as Comforter. I beg you to bring a friend into each life, someone with whom to grow and share joys & sorrows. Help us to be bold and reach out to others to get to know them and be friendly to someone else who may need a friend.
Please ease the loneliness in each of our hearts. Help us to laugh again.
In the name of Jesus, Amen.
While the ache feels so lonely, I can promise that you are not alone in feeling this way.
Have you gone through a period of where you felt like you had no close friends? What helped you through it?
This is Day 1 of 31 Days of Prayer for the Hurting (click to find links to the entire series). If you know someone who struggles with loneliness of needing a friend, would you share this post with them? If you are feeling the loss of friendship and wish to share it in the comments, I will pray for you today.
To read more great 31 Dayer posts, check out the linky hosted by The Nester.