God doesn’t want to fix your marriage; He wants to heal your heart.
And there, in that one tweetable sentence, is the soul of Beyond Ordinary. Justin and Trisha Davis bravely open a window for us into the dark and (seemingly) hopeless moments of the developing and revealing of Justin’s adulterous affair. They later walk us through the path of their recovery and restoration as a couple. But as the book unfolds, we learn, as they did, that God’s idea for healing involves so much more than just repairing the rift between husband and wife. God’s plan was and is total heart transformation.
Contrary to what the general public might expect, Trisha doesn’t sit back as a victim and point a judgmental finger at Justin or men in general. Both of them humbly share how God opened their eyes to some of the dark, idolatrous root sins that they, like all of us, struggle with. They mutually shoulder the blame of allowing their marriage to drift toward ordinary.
If you’re looking for a step-by-step guide to a better marriage, you will be disappointed. If you want a simple outline of how to fix your spouse, you’re in for a shock. You are the problem and you can’t do a thing to improve. Well, maybe just one thing: choose brokenness.
It’s giving up rather than just trying harder. Brokenness is a decision, laying everything on the line and then submitting it all to God. It is an awareness that God is your only hope. You can choose brokenness.
God has been at work in my own heart and the reading of Beyond Ordinary came at the perfect moment. Chapter Ten, No Ordinary Healing, was most moving. There it finally clicked.
You don’t need incremental change in your marriage; you need transformational change. You don’t need an improved version of the old you; you need a brand-new you. You don’t need a slight improvement in your marriage; you need a complete transformation. The great news is that God offers to transform you. God offers to give you a new life. God longs to give you an extraordinary marriage.
Get this book and use it to allow your heart to walk the trail of brokenness to transformation.
- Whet your appetite: You can read the first two chapters of the book for free – here.
- Read daily blog posts at RefineUs. I’ve followed Justin & Trisha’s blog for nearly three years now. Excellent resource.
- For weekly emails to strengthen your marriage, subscribe to MentorUs. We just started our subscription and so far feel like it helps open up conversations that we may not otherwise have had.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through Tyndale’s blogger book review program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.