Bombs and Relationships

I just realized that today is my four-year blogiversary! Happy, happy! So, I didn’t want to let this special day go by without a post.

This Buzzfeed video vastly amused me this week – couples trying to defuse a bomb together. I admit it. I laughed a lot at the crazy and sometimes harsh things that were said in the tense moments of trying to defuse the bombs. I also know from past experiences that my husband and I approach problems from very different angles. It can create frustration at times, but it also can create happy surprises (sometimes).

My conclusion is that we would (probably) have a decent chance at success (maybe). No, really, I totally think we could do it.

What about you? Do you think you could work through it to turn off the bomb in time?

Since this relates to how couples work together, I’d like to remind you about one of my favorite marriage resources, Justin and Trisha Davis are recapping their top 5 posts of 2014, so it’s a perfect time to hop over there and find some encouragement at being intentional in your marriage.

Merry Christmas from my husband and me!

Defusing bombs together since 1996!

Thanks for sharing my blogiversary with me! I’m looking forward to another blogging year together.

Where were you 15 years ago?


Today, Tom and I celebrate 15 years of marriage. Wow, how exciting is that!?!

When it came time to plan our wedding, I knew I didn’t want to get hit with anything, like rice or birdseed, so we opted for a balloon release instead. The idea was that as we went by everyone would release their balloons in a cascade of balloons. Then Tom and I had a trash bag full of them to release ourselves as a big finale.

It would be so beautiful.


What we underestimated were the vindictive natures of our closest friends and family.

Instead a gentle balloon release, we were pummeled with the balloons as we raced by trying to escape. I think the pictures say it well. Tom ended up shielding me from the brunt of most of the blows. 🙂

Good times. Good times.

I’ve previously shared on the blog the two-part story of how Tom proposed, and you know how I love weddings. But, rather than go through the sappy details of our wedding, I have a different idea to celebrate our anniversary today.

I would love to hear from you. 


In chatting with a friend who celebrated a birthday yesterday, I realized that he was 10 years old when we got married.

It got me to thinking.

Where were you 15 years ago? How old were you or what were you doing in August of 1998? Did something significant happen in your life in the fall of ’98?

Would you celebrate with us today by sharing your story in the comments?


I can’t wait to read them!

And to Tom, at first like a big brother, then best friend, and now lover, thank you for the past 15 years. I can’t wait to see what God does in our lives in the next 15!

Much love, Your LBM

(and to this day, no one has guessed what LBM stands for)

Okay, it’s your turn. Tell me your stories!

Take a stab at LBM if you want, but keep it clean. Best guesses ever: Lip Burnin’ Mama and Love Butter Monkey! 😀

No ordinary book review: Beyond Ordinary

God doesn’t want to fix your marriage; He wants to heal your heart.

And there, in that one tweetable sentence, is the soul of Beyond Ordinary. Justin and Trisha Davis bravely open a window for us into the dark and (seemingly) hopeless moments of the developing and revealing of  Justin’s adulterous affair. They later walk us through the path of their recovery and restoration as a couple. But as the book unfolds, we learn, as they did, that God’s idea for healing involves so much more than just repairing the rift between husband and wife. God’s plan was and is total heart transformation.

Contrary to what the general public might expect, Trisha doesn’t sit back as a victim and point a judgmental finger at Justin or men in general. Both of them humbly share how God opened their eyes to some of the dark, idolatrous root sins that they, like all of us, struggle with. They mutually shoulder the blame of allowing their marriage to drift toward ordinary.

If you’re looking for a step-by-step guide to a better marriage, you will be disappointed. If you want a simple outline of how to fix your spouse, you’re in for a shock. You are the problem and you can’t do a thing to improve. Well, maybe just one thing: choose brokenness.

It’s giving up rather than just trying harder. Brokenness is a decision, laying everything on the line and then submitting it all to God. It is an awareness that God is your only hope. You can choose brokenness.

God has been at work in my own heart and the reading of Beyond Ordinary came at the perfect moment. Chapter Ten, No Ordinary Healing, was most moving. There it finally clicked.

You don’t need incremental change in your marriage; you need transformational change. You don’t need an improved version of the old you; you need a brand-new you. You don’t need a slight improvement in your marriage; you need a complete transformation. The great news is that God offers to transform you. God offers to give you a new life. God longs to give you an extraordinary marriage.

Get this book and use it to allow your heart to walk the trail of brokenness to transformation.

Want more?

  • Whet your appetite:  You can read the first two chapters of the book for free – here.
  • Read daily blog posts at RefineUs. I’ve followed Justin & Trisha’s blog for nearly three years now. Excellent resource.
  • For weekly emails to strengthen your marriage, subscribe to MentorUs. We just started our subscription and so far feel like it helps open up conversations that we may not otherwise have had.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through Tyndale’s blogger book review program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.

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